The final episode for "The Secret Life" aired on Monday, Sept. 7, 2009 on Labor Day. In this final episode Jack cannot get Grace to have pre-marital sex with him so now he suggests to have oral sex instead. Grace looks at him as though he has lost his mind and says to him that oral sex is sex. He then says they can pretend that it is not sex. She breaks up with him. Jack goes back to his teen lover Madison who lost her virginity to Jack to continue having pre-marital sex and apparently oral sex too. He has been cheating on Grace with Madison, who is now hopeful for a full blown relationship with Jack.
Blog 1: Oral sex is sex that why they call it sex!
It is plenty explanatory. Pretending oral sex is not sex is just a deception many young men try to use in persuading young girls that there is nothing wrong with it. Oral sex is very intimate and is considered a type of premarital sex. Jack is a womanizer. It is good that Grace has the wisdom to see through his tactics. Too bad Madison does not see this wolf in sheep's clothing. Madison is being used. Jack does not care about her at all, he just wants one thing. She is giving it to him so what reason should he have to commit to her. Teen girls beware of guys like Jack. Be wise. Grace gets a thumbs up this week for standing firm in her commitment to Christ. Jack and Madison get a thumbs down for their weak motives and actions.
2 Corithians 10:5
"Casting down imaginations and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God."
An excerpt from Oswald Chamber's Book My Utmost For His Highest:
"We are apt to forget that a man is not only committed to Jesus for salvation; he is committed to Jesus Christ's view of God, of the world, of sin, and of the devil, and this will mean that he must recognize the responsibility of being transformed by the renewing of his mind."
About Me
- Dawn W. Lucy
- Attalla, Alabama, United States
- I am a conservative Captive Christian who has a heart for letting people know about Jesus. I desire for people to be set from sins, strongholds and bondages through the power of the Holy Spirit and the awesome word of God. I am a stay at home mom, a wife and mother of two. I enjoy blogging and freelance writing. Most recently, I have written a children's book on adoption based on our family's personal adoption story but personalized for children. I have a heart for children, youth, and prayer. I love the Lord Jesus and I want others to know his love too.
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
Tuesday, September 1, 2009
"The Secret Life"- Are Single Adults Held to the Same Standards as Teens when it comes to PMS-Premarital Sex?
Focus Point for today's blogs:
Last's night's episode of "The Secret Life" was greatly disappointing to me. Three families where the parents are divorced or widowed are all choosing to have P.M.S. (pre-marital sex) because they are "adults" and in today's culture this is supposedly a natural thing even if you are a Christian. NOT!!!!! First, we have Ben's widowed father, Leo Boykewich, who has asked his girlfriend Betty to marry him. However, she temporarily had to decline the proposal because she is still married to her estranged husband. So they have decided not to just shack up and have P.M.S. but now "officially" move in together-- the next step in America's culture. Second, we have George & Anne Juergens who have Amy and Ashley and another child on the way. They are currently divorced. However, they have still had sex with one another outside of marriage. Both committed adultery on one another while married; Anne committed P.M.S. with her boyfriend while still apparently having sex with her soon to be ex-husband George. Now George and Anne are in the process of reconciling. Lastly, we have Kathleen Bowman who is a Christian and Grace and Tom's mom, who recently lost her husband who was also a committed Christian and a spiritual leader to her and her family. This week she is already in another relationship less than 6 months since her husband's death and her new boyfriend is pushing her to have sex . The show ends with her more than likely giving in to him.
Dear Readers:
This show has done a good job of depicting how single adults choose to do things here in America in today's culture. It is interesting and disappointing to me how over the last thirty years especially the last 2 decades television writers and producers have slowly and discreetly placed their immorality stance into the story lines. Unfortunately, it has rubbed off on the values of Americans even Christian Americans of today. I am going to discuss what is wrong with these three scenarios, and how America's culture is not at all an example of what God intends for his people.
Blog 1- First step to commitment in America- Living Together
It is disturbing to me that the next step for many American's who are seeking a committed relationship is automatically not marriage but moving in and playing marriage. It is supposedly suppose to be easier. It is not any easier- it is just as hard because true commitment has not been made. There is always an out, a reason to quit when things get tough. It hurts just as bad when things end, because ultimately what people want is a lifetime commitment with their mate that includes a lifetime of love and respect. The best relationships are when God is intertwined in the center of your marriage relationship and commitment. This cannot be when you choose to pre-marry in a sense and live together before marriage. If you want God's best and his blessing; living together should never be an option. When things get rough and God is at the center of your commitment; he will renew, refresh, restore, and rebuild the relationship. It requires on your part to seek him and pray for his counsel, wisdom and guidance. He will not bless a relationship when couples live outside his will and choose not to commit to him and your partner through marriage. When you choose to marry living according to his word, it will be then he will grow the relationship and make it stronger. The rough patches may be hard but God is your restorer and redeemer and will help you through each and every challenge you face in a marriage.
Character Advice on T.V. Scenarios:
Leo, should not be having pre-marital sex or living with his girlfriend, Betty. In fact, he should not even date her until her marriage is over and her life issues are resolved. Anne and George need to make up there minds to be committed to their relationship with one another and their family. They should remarry and refocus on working hard to communicate, love and respect one another. Something that rarely happened in their past.
Blog 2: P.M.S. for Single Adults- Is this a sin or just a natural way of life?
P.M.S., i.e.- Pre-marital sex- for teens and singles adults including parents who have been divorced or widowed, is a sin. Teens of today are confused about P.M.S. because they see shows like this one or actually see their parents have live-in boyfriends or girlfriends or sleep overs with dates and know their parents are having sex. This is sending a wrong message to your teen. Because they see shows like this without clarification or they have parents who seem to advocate this lifestyle they believe that it is alright for single adults to have pre-marital sex. The reason this society gives is simply because they are adults. So when your teen become adults, guess what kind of relationships they will seek to have prior to marriage? Is this something you want for your child? I hope not. This lifestyle is simply a lie and deception from the world. It does not align with the word of God. Single adults are held to the same standards as a teenager who has pre-marital sex. In fact, they should know better and be a better role model for their kids.
Character Advice T.V. Scenario:
Last night's episode was a confirmation to me in regards to how people see Christians. I was extremely disappointed with the Christian parent character on the show, Kathleen Bowman. First, she is dating a man who is Jewish and not aligned with her Christian faith and values. Second, she acts confused on the topic of pre-marital sex. She reiterates to her new boyfriend that she is a Christian and perhaps should not have sex. He opposes her and says she is an adult and this is a natural part of every dating relationship. She agrees with him. This is wrong!!! No where in the word does it say that there is a double standard between age groups when it comes to pre-marital sex. It simply states that pre-marital sex is a sin and that people who do this will not inherit the kingdom of God. Christians by no means should be confused on this topic and should stand firm in their faith. Should Kathleen's character be a real life scenario, she should be dating someone who is aligned with the values of her faith and the word of God. Furthermore, she should make clear to her dates what it means to her to be a Christian and she does not intend to have pre-maarital sex. The person she dates needs to understand the commitment she has with God. She should be dating a man who would be a Spiritual leader to her and her children. In addition, she should not be dating so soon after losing her husband. She should give herself enough time to heal and grieve the death of her husband. While doing this, she should take the time to grow in her walk with God. As a result, she will become over time stronger as a person and in her relationship with Christ. Once she has become strong where she can stand firm in her values and if she feels she is emotionally and spiritually ready then she may choose to date again but according to biblical standards and boundaries. It is imperative that parents make sure their children have time to heal and grieve in the death of a parent or even when parents divorce before parents jump back into the dating world. I want to strongly reiterate it is imperative that when parents do have a relationship again they should conduct themselves according to the word of God and not have pre-marital sex. In this scenario with Kathleen, her children are not ready for this and apparently neither is she. Kathleen is weak-willed in nature/ vulnerable and currently incapable of making right choices for herself and family at this time. She is not being the strong, Godly example for her daughter who is struggling with the truth about God, his word and the issue of pre-marital sex in her own life.
Blog Challenge: None of the parents in this show have made right choices when it comes to their relationships. Because of these poor dating habits and marital sins these kids are witnessing, they would be less likely or capable of having a healthy, stable and committed relationship in their future unless they learn otherwise. These story lines are fiction but it is a good depiction of how Americans and even Christian Americans choose live their lives in today's culture. I challenge my readers, teenagers and single adults, Christians and Non-Christians, to refrain from making poor choices in their dating relationships and strive to live according to God's word and plan for their lives for the sake of their relationships and future marriages. Please refer to the side bar for the dating tips every one should follow to lay a good foundation for your dating relationships. Live the Faith for Jesus, Yourself, Your Family and Friends.
Scripture Verse: 2 Corinthians 6:14-18
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: "I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people."
"Therefore come out from them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you."
"I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty."
The Take Away Lesson:
It is clear by this passage in the Bible that as Christians we are not to be yoked together with unbelievers. This was a mistake I made when I was single. We are not to date someone who does not believe as we do. How do we know if someone is a believer? The lesson is do not take someone's word for it. Take time to observe the values of people before you date them. If they say they are a Christian, a Baptist, a Catholic, Jewish, etc, are they living according to the principles and commands of God? Or, are they trying to push you to compromise your values and violate the word of God and sin? Are they trying to have pre-marital sex with you? If they are, then I would tell you they aren't reflecting Christ's principles and commands and living for him, thus they are not a true believer.
Last's night's episode of "The Secret Life" was greatly disappointing to me. Three families where the parents are divorced or widowed are all choosing to have P.M.S. (pre-marital sex) because they are "adults" and in today's culture this is supposedly a natural thing even if you are a Christian. NOT!!!!! First, we have Ben's widowed father, Leo Boykewich, who has asked his girlfriend Betty to marry him. However, she temporarily had to decline the proposal because she is still married to her estranged husband. So they have decided not to just shack up and have P.M.S. but now "officially" move in together-- the next step in America's culture. Second, we have George & Anne Juergens who have Amy and Ashley and another child on the way. They are currently divorced. However, they have still had sex with one another outside of marriage. Both committed adultery on one another while married; Anne committed P.M.S. with her boyfriend while still apparently having sex with her soon to be ex-husband George. Now George and Anne are in the process of reconciling. Lastly, we have Kathleen Bowman who is a Christian and Grace and Tom's mom, who recently lost her husband who was also a committed Christian and a spiritual leader to her and her family. This week she is already in another relationship less than 6 months since her husband's death and her new boyfriend is pushing her to have sex . The show ends with her more than likely giving in to him.
Dear Readers:
This show has done a good job of depicting how single adults choose to do things here in America in today's culture. It is interesting and disappointing to me how over the last thirty years especially the last 2 decades television writers and producers have slowly and discreetly placed their immorality stance into the story lines. Unfortunately, it has rubbed off on the values of Americans even Christian Americans of today. I am going to discuss what is wrong with these three scenarios, and how America's culture is not at all an example of what God intends for his people.
Blog 1- First step to commitment in America- Living Together
It is disturbing to me that the next step for many American's who are seeking a committed relationship is automatically not marriage but moving in and playing marriage. It is supposedly suppose to be easier. It is not any easier- it is just as hard because true commitment has not been made. There is always an out, a reason to quit when things get tough. It hurts just as bad when things end, because ultimately what people want is a lifetime commitment with their mate that includes a lifetime of love and respect. The best relationships are when God is intertwined in the center of your marriage relationship and commitment. This cannot be when you choose to pre-marry in a sense and live together before marriage. If you want God's best and his blessing; living together should never be an option. When things get rough and God is at the center of your commitment; he will renew, refresh, restore, and rebuild the relationship. It requires on your part to seek him and pray for his counsel, wisdom and guidance. He will not bless a relationship when couples live outside his will and choose not to commit to him and your partner through marriage. When you choose to marry living according to his word, it will be then he will grow the relationship and make it stronger. The rough patches may be hard but God is your restorer and redeemer and will help you through each and every challenge you face in a marriage.
Character Advice on T.V. Scenarios:
Leo, should not be having pre-marital sex or living with his girlfriend, Betty. In fact, he should not even date her until her marriage is over and her life issues are resolved. Anne and George need to make up there minds to be committed to their relationship with one another and their family. They should remarry and refocus on working hard to communicate, love and respect one another. Something that rarely happened in their past.
Blog 2: P.M.S. for Single Adults- Is this a sin or just a natural way of life?
P.M.S., i.e.- Pre-marital sex- for teens and singles adults including parents who have been divorced or widowed, is a sin. Teens of today are confused about P.M.S. because they see shows like this one or actually see their parents have live-in boyfriends or girlfriends or sleep overs with dates and know their parents are having sex. This is sending a wrong message to your teen. Because they see shows like this without clarification or they have parents who seem to advocate this lifestyle they believe that it is alright for single adults to have pre-marital sex. The reason this society gives is simply because they are adults. So when your teen become adults, guess what kind of relationships they will seek to have prior to marriage? Is this something you want for your child? I hope not. This lifestyle is simply a lie and deception from the world. It does not align with the word of God. Single adults are held to the same standards as a teenager who has pre-marital sex. In fact, they should know better and be a better role model for their kids.
Character Advice T.V. Scenario:
Last night's episode was a confirmation to me in regards to how people see Christians. I was extremely disappointed with the Christian parent character on the show, Kathleen Bowman. First, she is dating a man who is Jewish and not aligned with her Christian faith and values. Second, she acts confused on the topic of pre-marital sex. She reiterates to her new boyfriend that she is a Christian and perhaps should not have sex. He opposes her and says she is an adult and this is a natural part of every dating relationship. She agrees with him. This is wrong!!! No where in the word does it say that there is a double standard between age groups when it comes to pre-marital sex. It simply states that pre-marital sex is a sin and that people who do this will not inherit the kingdom of God. Christians by no means should be confused on this topic and should stand firm in their faith. Should Kathleen's character be a real life scenario, she should be dating someone who is aligned with the values of her faith and the word of God. Furthermore, she should make clear to her dates what it means to her to be a Christian and she does not intend to have pre-maarital sex. The person she dates needs to understand the commitment she has with God. She should be dating a man who would be a Spiritual leader to her and her children. In addition, she should not be dating so soon after losing her husband. She should give herself enough time to heal and grieve the death of her husband. While doing this, she should take the time to grow in her walk with God. As a result, she will become over time stronger as a person and in her relationship with Christ. Once she has become strong where she can stand firm in her values and if she feels she is emotionally and spiritually ready then she may choose to date again but according to biblical standards and boundaries. It is imperative that parents make sure their children have time to heal and grieve in the death of a parent or even when parents divorce before parents jump back into the dating world. I want to strongly reiterate it is imperative that when parents do have a relationship again they should conduct themselves according to the word of God and not have pre-marital sex. In this scenario with Kathleen, her children are not ready for this and apparently neither is she. Kathleen is weak-willed in nature/ vulnerable and currently incapable of making right choices for herself and family at this time. She is not being the strong, Godly example for her daughter who is struggling with the truth about God, his word and the issue of pre-marital sex in her own life.
Blog Challenge: None of the parents in this show have made right choices when it comes to their relationships. Because of these poor dating habits and marital sins these kids are witnessing, they would be less likely or capable of having a healthy, stable and committed relationship in their future unless they learn otherwise. These story lines are fiction but it is a good depiction of how Americans and even Christian Americans choose live their lives in today's culture. I challenge my readers, teenagers and single adults, Christians and Non-Christians, to refrain from making poor choices in their dating relationships and strive to live according to God's word and plan for their lives for the sake of their relationships and future marriages. Please refer to the side bar for the dating tips every one should follow to lay a good foundation for your dating relationships. Live the Faith for Jesus, Yourself, Your Family and Friends.
Scripture Verse: 2 Corinthians 6:14-18
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: "I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people."
"Therefore come out from them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you."
"I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty."
The Take Away Lesson:
It is clear by this passage in the Bible that as Christians we are not to be yoked together with unbelievers. This was a mistake I made when I was single. We are not to date someone who does not believe as we do. How do we know if someone is a believer? The lesson is do not take someone's word for it. Take time to observe the values of people before you date them. If they say they are a Christian, a Baptist, a Catholic, Jewish, etc, are they living according to the principles and commands of God? Or, are they trying to push you to compromise your values and violate the word of God and sin? Are they trying to have pre-marital sex with you? If they are, then I would tell you they aren't reflecting Christ's principles and commands and living for him, thus they are not a true believer.
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